Sunday, January 27, 2008


I am really worried about my daughter Emma. This poor girl has been through so much the past few weeks. Today she finally broke down in tears, then she got me crying. Emma is 28 years old, married and has 3 wonderful children. For those of you who read this journal already know, Dan took a bad fall at work and was seriously hurt. He himself cried to me today, saying how worried he is about Emma and the kids, and how he feels so useless to them. I told him to just concentrate on getting better, because when he is home everyone is happy. I promised him I would spend more time at the house with Emma and the kids while he is away getting better. But Emma is drained. Emotionally and physically drained. I am worried she is heading for a nervous breakdown. She has 3 kids to worry about, a house to run, Dan in the hospital, and the other day she had to throw Dan's brother Bill out. He has been living with them for over a year and doesn't work. He babysits, does dishes and cooks, but then he went and stole money from Emma that the other brothers put in an envelope and told Bill to give it to Emma. Instead he went to a bar where they have a slot machine and fed that slot machine and then tried to blame it on my nephew Eddie. Well my nephew and Emma are just not cousins, they are best friends and Eddie would do anything in the world for Emma. Eddie is staying with Emma now, he works, pays Emma rent, washes the dishes and cooks dinner. He's a good cook. He even babysits. He has 2 kids of his own, so he knows how to take care of lil ones. He will be 28 in October. Emma and Eddie are exactly 10 month's apart. I am glad he is there. I was worried about Emma being alone at night's with just the kids there. Eddie told me no one will hurt Emma or those babies while he is there. But as for Emma crying like that. That scared me. I have never heard her cry like that since she lost her son Michael to stillborn in 1998. Tonight I am going to take her out shopping for a new vacuum, and tomorrow take her to Hollywood Tan where she has a membership so she can get a tan which she hasn't done in a while. I am going to take the day off from school tomorrow and spend the day with her just talking. I don't know what else I can do. Any idea's. I know she needs adult conversation. Being around lil kids all day can get to you eventually. As her Mom I am at a loss. I don't know what else I can do for her to bring her some happiness that she needsright now. I owe her my life. If it weren't for her caring for me and pushing me I'd of given up the chemo treatments. Yes, I admit it. Halfway into the treatments I was so sick and just wanted to give up but she got on me about it and made me finish. And for that I am so greatful to her. She's not just my daughter, she is my bestfriend. I love her with my whole heart.

I guess I ranted on enough. It is after 1pm and I am still in my pajamas. I need to get dressed, fix lunch for Rebecca and Marissa and wait for Emma to call me when she's ready to go shopping. Please say a little prayer for her.

Note: I spoke with Dan earlier. He is doing great, walking all over and feeling alot better. He says maybe by the end of this coming week he will be ready to come home and start physical therapy.

Love to all.........CINDY



  1. Awwwwwww poor Emma, sounds to me like she is burned out, I hope you can help her tommorow by talking to her, she sounds like a great lady , Love You Lisa XO

  2. First off, about the bottom note, that is wonderful about Dan.
    Your asking for ideas, but it seems you have it all together. Your an awesome mom!  Take the day off and give her some adult time or tell her to get out of the house for a bit while you watch the kids. Tell her to go see a movie and grab lunch or something. My opinion is she needs to get out of the same four walls. My heart aches for her. Your such an awesome mom though!! She is SO LUCKy to have you!
    Love you tons sis
    Maybe I need to get her a basket together , okay, so not a basket, a box of goodies.  What is her favorite chocolate or candy? Favorite smell for lotions and such??? Ideas would be great sis

  3. that's wonderful sissy....GOOD GIRL EMMA wtg, i'm proud of ya....sissy ANYONE and i do mean ANYONE who would deliberately do something like that to emma and these 3 kids just does not need to be around i'm very happy that she did what she did and threw him out
    Eddie is a lot like his uncle Paul when it comes to kids cooking and cleaning I hope that he is going to be there a long time .....Dan is doing wonderful it sounds like to me....but there it remains ,He's still got a very long road to travel before he's at full capacity but with prayer love from family & friends time hard work rest and patience he WILL make it....Daniel i'm praying for you hun god bless

  4. I don't think there is much anything can suggest you do Cindy ,you do it all and more if you ask me.You are the perfect Mum and we can only do our best as a Mum and you do more than your best at all times I find.I feel sad too Emma is so tired and stressed out ,I believe the tan will help her relax and whatever else you plan will lift her spirits I am sure.I am so happy Dan is making headway and I feel I must say he sounds to me as though he is trying his utmost to get home to that most wonderful family he so loves.The vibes come though from all of you.My prayers continueing for everyone in the family and very well done on  Eddie too Clap Clap for his tremendous support he has given Emma too.Look after yourselves Take Care God Bless Kath astoriasand

  5. I think you are on the right track where Emma is concerned.  You both are blessed to have each other in your lives.  Good advice to Dan, he does need to focus on getting well.  It sounds like Emma has a good family support system around her and that the nephew will help out.  Shame on the brother for taking what is not his, and it sounds like Emma dealt with it correctly.  I know it must have been hard for her to do.  God Bless!

  6. My dear dear Cindy,  How my heart aches for you all.  I am sure you are doing the right thing for Emma taking her out and just having a Mum and daughter day. She has gone through so very much it is only natural that the tears were bound to come out. It is like a valve bursting, it is best to burst in a dafe place and so where better than in her loving Moms arms.I am so glad that you were there for her. Who  other than with you Mom can you cry your heart out to..same with Dan it is wonderful that he loves you so much that he could break down and cry to you.  It is actually a wonderful priviledge to have been there for them both.  Now you must make sure that you keep yourself well. Get as much sleep as possible.... at any time... you have to be strong for them and I know that you are and with all our prayers surrounding you you will come through in the end all the stronger for all this awful start to the year.  Much Love  Sybil xxxxx

  7. It isn't surprising that Emma broke down. She is so overwhelmed; has so much to cope with right now. She is blessed to have such a wonderful Mom. Being able to cry, to be herself with you helps, I'm sure, even if it doesn't change much. It's tough for Dan too. So many people are praying for all of you, including me, so I know things will get better. It just takes time.
    Hugs, and love too.

  8. Thats a great idea taking Emma out and having a pampering session as she richly deserves, she must be under a tremendous strain, with everything that has gone on, but your there to give support and a shoulder to cry on when she needs it, so your doing exactly the right thing.

    Take care


  9. I am surprised she didn't break down sooner than this! I would have been crying every day! She's tough. But, she still needs her Mom's shoulder to cry on once in awhile. And what you are doing is perfect. Just spend time with her. That's what she needs.
    Prayers going up.
    Love ya,

  10. I'm not surprised Emma finally broke down and had a good cry.  Hopefully she just needed a good cry to refuel herself.  I'll say an extra prayer tonight for Emma.

  11. My prayers always go out to Emma and her beautiful is good to cry and get it all out.  Hope she has better days ahead...and for are a very strong Mom...hang in there too.
    Hugs and love,

  12. I include Emma, the children and your family in my prayers for Dan's recovery.  I think Cindy, just spending some time with Emma without the children and away from the house is probably one of the best things you can do for her right now.  Find something silly to laugh about and some of her stress will be relieved.

  13. prayers going out to all of you!!  What you are doing is good...  great actually.. shopping and a tan will do her good.  Get her away from the stress for a bit.  Hoping Dan improves and comes home soon

  14. thinking of you guys.
    i bet all emma needs is some time for herself and she will perk up
    anyone knows being a mom is hard work and she has 3 plus a sick husband.
    take care

  15. Thank goodness that Emma has you as her mum as you are so understanding and I think what you intend to do is just right.  She has had so much pressure in the last year and having that no good brother in law was the topping on the cake.  I am glad he has gone.  Thank goodness for Eddie, he sounds like a good man.  I hope that Dan continues to improve although I think it will take some time.  They are bound to have bad days but hopefully the good ones will soon be along.  Hugs, Tells x

  16. cindy...

    you are the best mom ever!!!! you take that day off, even take two or 3. tell em she will be in my prayers tonight {you too!} God will look after you ALL. don't worry {I know being a mom thats hard to do.} all will work out ....for the better.


  17. My thoughts and prayers go out to Emma. It is said that "Tears are healing" I believe this to be true, I hope it is in Emma's case. You are such a loving and caring Mom! I wish there were more like you in this world. Shopping and a tan sound wonderful. What about a nice little pedicure too. ( if it is in the budget) Get those winter feet, summer soft & sweet. I have only had it done twice, But it was so relaxing.

    I am glad Emma's brother -in-law is finally out of her home. You have written your concern re: him for some time. It sounds  as though her cousin living there is best for all. I am glad she and the children have a Man in the house while Dan is away. I cont. to pray for Dan's full recovery.

    Take Care.

  18. Emma has so much on her. What you plan to do for her should help some.  and it is great that she has a relative there that can help her and not just sponge off of her.
    just be there for her, and get her rest when you can.  rest is what she needs to most of right now....
    hugs to YOU

  19. Poor Emma.She has so much on her plate now. Thank goodness she has you and now Eddie to help. I know the day out will help her. Hopefully when Dan gets out of the hospital she can breathe a little easier. Will continue to send good thoughts and prayers to you all.
    Hugs, Barb  

  20. praying for Emma and Dan:)


  21. SO glad that Dan is doing so well.....i can't imagine what all Emma is going thru and i hope that with you being there to support her, it helped a bit.....i know this also is so stressful on you too, with you having Jim and Rebecca to help too. Be careful to not overdo it, Cindy. I love you so!

  22. Sometimes just having a good cry can help...just keep on being there for her...keep the communication open ..tell her to let you know if it all gets too much so you can help before she "loses" it..I think she'll be okay..we are tough chicks us women...
    you are a great role model for her Cindy...
    Hang in there

  23. So sad for Emma.  She must feel like she has the world on her shoulders.  Sometimes you just need a little cry.  Emma is probably still shocked and scared.  I think Emma is lucky to have you there for her Cindy.  Maybe that's all she needs, just someone to be there for her.
    I hope Dan will soon be home.  He needs to concentrate on getting well.
    Sending hugs and prayers to you all.

  24. Cindy, that was a well earned rant, don't worry about it. As for Emma crying, she needs a release and I bet it helped her too. You are a good Mum and don't forget it.
    Gaz x

  25. I'm glad you were able to get it out of your system. Worrying over your daughter and her family definitely takes a lot out of you. I'm keeping the entire family in my prayers on the smoke! (Hugs) Indigo

  26. If your daughter Emma can just tell her self this won't last forever it sounds like Dan will be home and I am sure things will get better.  She has just had an awful lot for a human being to contend with.  I am glad you are feeling better.  I do think a crisis such as your family experienced with Dan is tried to the very l imits of their endurence, but Dan is still alive, so that is better, and not too badly hurt in that he is looking to get better.  Yes, I think about this little family often and feel they certainly deserve our prayers and get well wishes.  And you, too!  Gerry

  27. Hey you needed to get some stuff out, and you did. I know it made you feel better too. Sounds like Emma did the right thing getting rid of dead weight in the house and getting someone useful to come in and help out. Mama has a saying...

    "And this too shall pass"

    If she can just hold out Dan will be home soon.

  28. I am glad she got Dan's brother out of the house. She doesn't need the added stress. I am not surprised she had a good cry. Sometimes you just have to let it all out. It does make you feel better afterwards. Just keep doing what you are doing for Emma. Knowing she has someone she can turn to helps a lot. Do whatever you can to take her mind off things. Watch a good comedy & make some pop corn with extra butter LOL. Please let her know that we are all praying for her & her family.