Tuesday, June 27, 2006

Kids, grrrrrrrrrrrrr

 Pouty Well, I found out some information today, that I'm really not at all happy about. Actually I cried for over an hour when I found out. I know I've talked some about how Dan was the bad guy in this relationship with my daughter, well my dear cousin Carmen said, girl it takes 2 to tango, and she was right. I tried to put all the blame on Dan for what is happening in their relationship, but I was wrong to do so. Dan was blocking certain numbers who called for Emma and accusing her of having friends who were just too close for comfort. I got mad about that, but you know what? He had suspicions, and so did Emma. She thought he was seeing someone, and he thought she was too. Well, they are both right, I think. Dan has been calling a girl named Gina for a few weeks, and she is from AA where he attends regularly. Dan has been clean and sober for over 4 years and that AA has alot to do with it. But Emma being as young as she is and very impatient with life, and acts before she thinks, as gone out and started seeing a guy named Michael from a job she had last year working at the same place as Dan was. She has been sneaking around seeing him. It's a 25 minute drive to Yardley, Pa where he lives. So all these times she's been late in running errands and saying she is at one place and really at another she's been lieing. Not only lieing to Dan but lieing to me also. I am so disappointed and so hurt. I could care less if she wants to mess around, but geeze, she's got 2 kids at home. They come first, before anything or anyone. And apparently it's been going on for a while. I was'nt gonna say anything to her about it, but after a call I got from my husband Jim today saying that Emma called his work, gave a credit card number to get a guy named Michaels windshield replaced, it made me mad. Cause I know it's her way for her father to find out about him to get me to accept it. Well, guess what? I don't accept it, and I never will. I called her after I had calmed down, told her I knew it all now, and I told her I did not want to meet him, or know anything about him. As far as I'm concerned he is a home wrecker and took my grandchildren's happy home from them, and for that he will never be accepted into my life or my home. She I think was surprised I found out so fast, on my own, well I guess that's part of being a parent, we know when something is going on with one or more of our kids. I've known for a while something was'nt right, but I did'nt want to accept that there was. I guess it's called denial. All, I feel now is betrayal, lied to and very hurt. Just last year she told me she did'nt know what true love was until she met Dan. What happened with those feelings? On a scale today with my stress level being 1 to 10, I think I'm a 11. Sorry to rant on about this, but I had to try to get it off my chest. Disappointment is not a good thing. Especially when it's one of your children who you thought was grown up enough to know better!!


  1. Only our children can hurt us or disappoint us like no one eles, but make sure she knows you are still loving her even thru you don't approve, thinking of you, and I enjoy your journal, Sherry

  2. i am so sorry just let her know you still love you just don't approve of what she is doing


  3. I am so sorry, Just love her like you always do. Hugs go out to you and I'm so sorry your so upset.

  4. Sorry this is going on in your family.  Try to focus on taking care of yourself and the little one. Take care and if you need anything ....just ask.

  5. The ones will love are the ones that can hurt us the most. I'm sorry that your daughter disappointed you, but most of all LIED to you. Please remember we are all not perfect. I had a moment like this with my daughter different situation, but she still lied to me about it and when I found out I was so hurt and I too cried. Thank goodness we have overcome that and she understands why I was so hurt by her actions. I know that you and your daughter will overcome this. I wish my inlaws were like you and not want anything to do with the homewrecker, but I am sure when John (my someday X) has enough nerve to bring his slut around they'll accept her with open arms. Cindy please take care of yourself. You have to be healthy to help your younger daughter and your grandchildren out.
    Take care and God bless, Chrissie